BY KATHY EHRICH DOWD
Shonda Rhimes‘s upcoming memoir is titled Year of Yes, but there is one important question that the revered show runner will always answer with a no: “Will you marry me?”
“I was seriously dating somebody and I was like, ‘I don’t want to do this,’ ” Rhimes, 45, tells Entertainment Weekly for its latest cover story. “We’re all so conditioned to want it, I felt like there must be something wrong with me. But the minute I said it out loud to my family, it was fantastic.“
Making the personal decision to remain unwed has come as a huge relief for the Illinois native, who says she’s direct when people ask her whether she’s looking for a relationship.
“Now if somebody says, ‘Are you looking for that?’ I say, ‘Nope, looking for a boyfriend, not a husband,’ ” she says. “And there’s a freedom to that. There’s no pressure if you’re not looking for it.“