BY ‘SEGUN ODEJIMI
So, the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG) head, Pastor Adeboye made some comments recently while addressing his congregation and the Nigerian internet space has gone into overdrive.
He mentioned three points; one about prayer, another about laziness and the last about culinary skills.
Here’s my take…
1. In the context of what he practices, prayer is very important. If you’re not a Christian but believe in a higher power, chances are you talk to that higher power. That’s prayer. So, non-issue.
2. Laziness. Man or woman, who wants have a lazy body as spouse? In the African/Nigerian context, a woman spends more time with the children and in the home. Will any of those making a noise about this want their sons to marry a lazy woman? I thought so too. So, non-issue again.
3. This last point caused the most noise. Do I think he goofed? Nope. It’s a matter of choice really. Wanting your woman to be able to cook does not mean you’re relegating her to the kitchen. There’s nothing wrong with expecting your wife to go into the kitchen, maybe once a week, to make a meal for the family. And tell me, regardless of the love, would you be elated if the meal is salt-filled, undercooked or waterlogged? Some of my friends’ wives are the ones who even brag to you when you visit that they are the best cooks this universe has ever seen. I have gotten in trouble, more than once, with some of them when I declined their meals or even failed to finish them. And no, they aren’t “housewives”. They are career women. There’s nothing wrong with adding cooking skills to your criteria for a wife as a man. Just as people shouldn’t shout if a woman decides to add “must be good with kids” to her criteria when searching for a husband.
I don’t always agree with Adeboye but it’s hard for me to kick him on any of these.