BY ADEDIWURA OKELEYE
Nollywood actress, Halima Abubakar has always been very open about her stand on marriage.
The actress spoke to Encomium Magazine recently and she of course, talked about her opinion on marriage and her career among other things. Here are some excerpts from the interview:
When she was asked if she really didn’t want to get married, she said:
Yes, because marriage has been overrated. It’s unnecessarily over rated. It’s just too much of headache with how things are now. Even ordinary relationship is a huge burden, huge headache and heartbreaking, let alone marriage. When you can’t stand each other as boyfriend and girlfriend, how would you live together under the same roof when you get married?
People need to know themselves seriously. When I say seriously, I mean spiritually before getting married. People only know themselves physically, not spiritually, so they end up getting bored with each other.
They stay in that marriage and later it may become very irritating and they start fighting. Before they know it, everything becomes violent. You hear people say all sorts of things. You’re the one who allowed people to get to you and start telling you you’re getting old. You’re the one allowing them to convince you that you’re getting old, you need to get married.
About how people constantly mount pressure on her to get married, Halima Abubakar said:
Yes, it’s very irritating. When you’re not my father nor my mother and you’re more concerned than them. So people should face their problems. They also have a lot of problems in their lives. Why are they poke nosing into my life and trying to make me take a drastic decision I may regret tomorrow.
About the man in her life:
At this time of my life, I am no longer interested in talking about anything. If there is or there’s none, that’s my problem. It’s nobody’s business. I have done that in the past. I have invested a lot emotionally, talking about my relationship.
Even on my wedding day, if I decide to marry, eventually, nobody is invited.