BY ADEDIWURA OKELEYE
Genevieve Magazine was the first to bring us news of Nollywood actress, Osas Ajibade‘s pregnancy some weeks before she had the baby. In the interview Osas had with them, she revealed the different reactions she got after agreeing to marry her husband, Nollywood actor, Gbenro Ajibade.
She mentioned that a lot of people said Gbenro only married her for the “green card” and that she could have done better with her choice of husband.
When she was asked if she’d have chosen someone richer than Gbenro, she said:
“People say I could have done better but I don’t even think about it. I know what I have gone through and the kind of men who have approached me. The first and most important thing to me is love. Of course I know some billionaires could have courted me but I am not about the money.
When I first returned from the US that’s what I was being approached with but it’s never been my priority. Love is more important to me. Gbenro might not be the richest man in the world but there is love and we will grow together and that’s what makes me proud of our marriage. Would I rather be rich and miserablw? No! I have a man who is smart and talented, so handsome and God fearing. There is no other direction he would go but upwards because he is a man who is determined for himself and his family. I am not worried that he is not a billionaire; by God’s grace he will get there. I’d rather be happy in the man he is and the man I know he is aspiring to be.
People will always have opinions. I am judged even for the air I breathe.”
She spoke about how hurtful it was that people thought Gbenro only wanted her because she was an American citizen saying:
Being in the limelight, I hear different things and I wouldn’t be human if some of them didn’t get to me;especially the comments people made about how he is only with me because he wants a green card. That was very hurtful because people don’t understand the love we have for each other.
Everybody likes a good life. Who no like better tin? If he is able to get a green card for being with me, then that is a blessing but for people to assume that that is the only reason he is with me is very hurtful.
Gbenro has had different opportunities in his life and he could have made that [a green card] happen a long time ago. He always tells me that he had never envisioned himself being in love and in a relationship until he met me. He thought he might just end up having a baby mama. I didn’t ask him to marry me. He asked me to take this journey with him. People can talk all they want.
When Gbenro was asked about the green card allegation, he laughed and said, “That reminds me, I should apply now. Her mum has been pestering me to do that.”
She also talked about how life has been since she became married and how she has had to adjust to having to take care of herself and someone else . She said:
“People say the first 6 months of marriage are the toughest and we have gone through our fair share of ups and downs.
Culture was a big shock for me and being a wife is a different life altogether. I was a bachelorette doing whatever I wanted but now I am a caretaker and I have to care for my husband.
I hear it’s normal to have a maid in Nigeria but I am not used to that. I upkeep my house myself even though my husband is open to employing someone for that. I do not trust anyone because I am scared.
I never really liked cooking. I was the girl who would whip up a nice bowl of noodles for myself but I’m married now and Gbenro is used to eating a full-grown man’s meal. Whether I am hungry or not there has to be food in my house. I had to learn how to cook what he likes. He loves Banga soup and I am grateful to his mum who taught me to do different dishes that her son loves.
I’m not complaining because if he is constantly eating out that will never make me happy.
I want him to look good and I want him to be happy when he comes home. It is not so much a challenge but it is a different life.
I also understand now that Gbenro needs his space. Whenever Gbenro needs his Gbenro time I give that to him that and whenever I need Osas time, Gbenro gives that to me. What I love is that we are learning to communicate better and work with each other day by day.”
Read the full interview here